They Are Always Watching...

Written by Anthony Demangone

I love my kids.  My wife and I hope to empower them to be smart, independent people who look out for their fellow man.  I also hope they aren't the subject of a COPS episode.  So we try to teach them life lessons whenever we can.

But here's the thing - they often teach Mandy and me a few things. 

Take this photo for example.  It looks nice enough.  Smiling kids.  No scratch or bite marks, at least on that day. 

But did you notice Briggs?   He's holding his purse.  Kate has a wonderful purse that she treasures above all other things.  Briggs saw her one day with a purse, and announced that he wanted a purse as well.  I told him that purses are for girls, but I didn't really press the issue. 

Well, he somehow found that bag and adopted it.  It is now Briggs' purse.  I told him, gently, that girls use purses.  Men use wallets.  And manly men use money clips.  (I use a wallet, by the way.)  Briggs replied that "Daddy has a purse."  I simply dropped the matter.  

Later that week, I was getting ready for work.  I went through my goodbye routine, which consists of a round of tickling, kisses and hugs.  As I walked away, Briggs said the following.

Daddy, I want a purse like yours. 

I realized that I had my messenger/computer bag slung over my shoulder.  Here's what it looks like:

You know, that's a purse.  Apologies, Briggs.

I've thought about this a bit.  It must be so hard to be a three-year old.  All you want to do is fit in.  You want to be like Mommy and Daddy. Like your sister.  Like Gamma and Grandpap.  You you look for clues.  Kate has a purse.  Mommy has a purse.  And so does Daddy.  

And so it must be for new employees.  They start a new job, and they want to fit in.  They want to succeed.  There's the employee handbook.  There's orientation.  But they'll look to see what managers, directors, executives and board members do.  What they say.  How they act.  How they behave. 

They are always watching. And that's a good thing to remember. 

Have a great weekend, guys. May you find that perfect purse!

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Comments

[DJ]

Excellent point. This is the reason management and parents should always hold themselves to a higher standard.
This point can be taken one step further - as members of society; What will/would happen if we all act the way we expect (hope) others to act towards us?

[Anthony Demangone]

DJ - you are right to take it that one step further. If we all did that, man - what a different world we'd live in. So let's do it!

[Sue]

I think Briggs might like on of those spiffy NAFCU messenger bags!

[Anthony Demangone]

Sue - that bag is legend around here. I finally gave up that NAFCU bag when I moved to my new messenger bag. And I miss it! Have a great weekend!